Male - Female by Ray Wegner
Various subjects will be explored on this web site regarding male-female relations, like family, sex, relationships, etc. The focus is more directed to the female side of things - and especially dealing with Canadian women's issues. I love women, and enjoy their company, but I am not politically correct, and am definitely NOT involved in the war of the sexes. Am not a prude, and am not your typical Canadian male who will put up with being dominated and bullied by women just to placate and please them. Credentials - Have worked for many years almost always harmoniously with fellow female workers - in Edmonton with Lilydale for about 4 years in a department where there were about 100 woman and only around 10 men. In Calgary with an employer for about 5 years in a department which was mostly all female - got along and worked with these ladies successfully - and that is no easy task these days. Was a stay at home father for 7 years and took care of the parental needs of my two daughters - they are young adults now. You won't find too many men who have changed more diapers than me. Have studied extensively into Biblical principles governing male-female relations and the family. Am married, but my wife is severely handicapped, and we have overcome some amazing obstacles and the relationship has endured in spite of all kinds of persons and authorities trying to undermine and destroy it. I have other qualifications as well. The role of women in Canadian society has changed a lot in recent decades - what with the onset of the feminist movement, political correctness, the growth of the nanny-state and socialism, and the weakening of the husbands and fathers role. Canada today is a female dominated society. You don't believe me ? You think it is a man's world - and if women ran it then it would be a better place ? Well let me give you some facts to prove my point that Canada is a female dominated society, and more a matriarchal society than anything - I am generalizing a bit of course - there are always some exceptions you know. Women in Canada have a lot more power than perhaps they realize.
There is a lot more proof, but these proofs should have proven my point to you perfectly. The old saying that " its a man's world " just doesn't seem to resonate in the Canada of 2009. Sure men still run a lot of things and have a lot of clout, but basically within Canadian homes and families they have been reduced to just penises and wallets. Well that ain't me folks. I am more than just a penis and a wallet.
Here are some interesting questions regarding women's issues here in Canada as of 2010.
When I worked at Lilydale in Edmonton years back - I worked in the packaging department for almost 4 years straight. There were around 100 women or so depending on the season (summer was much busier), and only about 10 men in our department. There were woman there from all over - from Alberta, Ontario, Quebec, Newfoundland and other parts of Canada, some aboriginal woman, plus women from foreign places like Portugal, India, Egypt, Fiji, Germany, Uruguay, Chile, and Jamaica. I studied what was going on, and so this experience was very educational, like a University Degree for me. I deliberately studied the interactions between the people, especially how the men and the women mixed and got along. When you spend 8 hours a day - 5 days a week - and over 3½ years with people (often the same people) you get to know them very, very well sometimes better than your own family. They can't hide much from you, because inevitably over time the mask comes down and you get to see them for what they really are. One thing I learned that really stuck out strongly was how most of the men (not all the men, but most of them) looked at women and their relationship with them as some sort of symbol of status. Women being a source of power and status for them - someone to dominate, use, abuse, control and make them feel a sense of power. To exercise some sort of phallic power over the women, even if it is only in their head. I remember the Government Meat Inspectors (all of whom were male) who used to strut through our department regularly, like cocky little roosters. There was one especially who stood out. He would come into our department, making his rounds, and would strut around and head straight for the single blond with the big teats. Supposedly in his mind forming some sort of domineering relationship with the single blond woman with the big bosom - was the pinnacle of a status symbol for him. It got really tiresome over time to see this same game being played out day after day. I was just a worker there on the production line, and couldn't just get up and leave when these male creeps come strolling through our department. I remember one day making a comment about one of these Government Meat Inspectors after he came through our department and made his inevitable rooster like tour of the women and left - " well I guess he had his sniff. " The good looking blond with the big teats sure could attract the men. However, when you work with people day after day you get to know them, and I wouldn't have touched this woman with a ten foot pole. Looks - yes she had it, but who wants to make love with a prickly cactus ? We had a Supervisor who played the same old dominating game with the women - viewing them as symbols of status. I used to do clean-up in our department sometimes during the week at lunch time. So would go down to the Cafeteria after the workers came back from their lunch. The Cafeteria was quite empty during this time, but there happened to be a woman there too. She had a fairly soft and easy job sharpening the knives. Well I got to know her and we began sitting together at lunch and socializing - nothing sexual about it - just friends, and anyways she was married. We enjoyed each other's company. One day this Supervisor come strolling through the Cafeteria making his rounds. He looks at me and the woman disapprovingly. The woman right then and there apologized to this man for sitting with me. She said " (name of this man, which I will not mention) I am sorry. " I never, ever before had a woman apologize to anyone for merely sitting with me. Amazing isn't it ? The woman obviously felt threatened by this Supervisor, and she had an easy job, and this man had the power to cause problems for her, and give her a dirty job. He could exile her to the kill line. Another time I was sitting in the Cafeteria at lunch, and happened to be sitting with these other woman. This same Supervisor walked through and he sees me sitting with these ladies, and we were having a good time together and a good conversation. Well he walks out of the door, but the door had a window in it. I was sitting with my back to the door, and the one woman was facing the door. I could tell this Supervisor was gesturing his disapproval towards her, because she was gesturing back at him, and clearly showing by her body language that the Supervisor was signaling his strong disapproval of her sitting with and socializing with me. Once again this creepy Supervisor was trying to intimidate the woman to refrain them from socializing with me. He never had the guts to confront me about it, because he knew very well I would not allow him to bully me, so he cowardly went after the woman instead. We had a very beautiful Portuguese married woman in our department, and she was a good worker too. I really liked her a lot, and admired her, but there was nothing sexual about it, since I am a Christian and we are commanded by God not to covet another man's wife. But man was she ever beautiful. Anyways one day I happened to be working beside her on the production line. We got to talking and socializing while working, and were having fun, and enjoying it. Hey nothing wrong with socializing on the job, and enjoying your work. Anyways suddenly this woman speaks up and mentions her husband. She said to me straight out and unexpectedly " my husband will go after me - not after you. " She was actually worried her husband might somehow find out she was socializing with me at work, and cause her trouble ! How ? Well she worked with a lot of other Portuguese women in the plant and my theory is that some of these women, who were friends of hers, socialized with her and her family outside of work. So my guess is that she might have been worried that if she enjoyed my company too much at work, some of these friends of hers could mention this to her husband, and she would get in trouble with him. You know - what kind of man would be so insecure that he would try and even control who his wife socializes with while she is at her work site ?? Why should a woman have to fear simply socializing with men at work ? For me while I worked there my attitude was to look at the person first, not at their sex first. To deal with the woman first and foremost as persons - not as sexual creatures. Sure we are sexual creatures and you cannot ignore it, but for me I looked at the human being first, not at what was between their legs first. I also tried very hard to act respectfully with the women. This is because years before I happened to have this job at Canada Packers, and I was hired about the same time as this tall, attractive, young, single brunette woman. We worked together. We were kind of stuck together. We were both transferred to the night shift, and again worked together - right across from each other night after night. The men would come around constantly - not to see me naturally, but to get their sniff of the woman, and sometimes to feel her up. It got sickening. She seemed to not mind one bit, and kind of milked all the attention. One night she plastered on this perfume and it was so strong my eyes started to water. Later on we were transferred back to the day shift and again I got stuck working with her. There was this older man there, who went after her and she did not seem to mind, and it was a sexual, domineering, creepy relationship, and it nauseated me, and I had to put up with this crap day after day. I asked to be transferred out of that department, back to the beef cutting department. So when I got this job at Lilydale with all the woman, I vowed to myself that I would never act like that attractive brunette did with the men at Canada Packers. I never slept around with any of the woman at Lilydale, even though I had numerous opportunities to do so.
Genuine Christianity does not condone the subjugation and submission of woman to men. It does not condone the abuse of women. However, there is a lot of false Christianity, where Churches have strayed from Biblical principles governing the relationship between the sexes and in the family. God's form of government in the family. If we will follow God's standards and rule then we will follow the Biblical form of government within the family as spelt out in the New testament. These Biblical family principles, and laws are the following:
Ephesians 5:25 " Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; " Ephesians 5:22-23 " Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the savior of the body. " Ephesians 6:1-4 " Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise;) That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. " (1 Peter 3:1-8) (1Corinthians 11:3) These are spiritual laws. God Himself will not force people to obey them, but there are spiritual consequences to not obeying them. Mankind has free moral agency. Therefore human governments have no business trying to enforce these spiritual principles (governing the family) through the laws they pass and enforce, since mankind has been given free moral agency by God, and even God will not force people to obey these laws. Also this matter of a wife respecting her husband - does in no way include other men. Other men, like an Uncle, Grandfather, Father, Neighbour or Boss - have no legitimate right to act like a husband towards you and expect you to defer to them. Sure, if your boss at work is a man then you need to respect your bosses authority to direct the workforce, but that does not give them any right to exercise illegitimate authority over you. You do not need to respect illegitimate authority from anyone. A lot of men are out to dominate women, and will illegitimately seek to form some kind of dominant relationship over female associates, or relatives. You as a wife are only obligated to respect your husbands authority - other men have no right to form some kind of domineering personal relationship over you, and have no right to exercise illegitimate authority over you. And anyways even your husband is supposed to serve and love you and your children.
Islamic Countries In a good number of Islamic countries the subjugation and abuse of women is written into the laws, like in nations like Saudi Arabia, Afghanistan, Pakistan and Iran. The problem is the combination of church and state, where the governments of the Islamic States, work hand in hand with Muslim clerics to force Islam, and Sharia Law upon the people. Here are just some examples of how poorly woman are treated in Saudi Arabia. Apparently there has been some movement for reform and granting woman more rights, but the pace of change has been glacial:
There are varying degrees of abuse of women in Islamic countries, some much less than others. Saudi Arabia is a particularly glaring example however.
Female Infanticide In 2005, 90 million women were estimated to be "missing" in Afghanistan, Bangladesh, China, India, Pakistan, South Korea and Taiwan alone, possibly due to sex-selective abortion. It is estimated that by 2020 there could be more than 35 million young " surplus males " in China and 25 million in India. Their female counterparts will have been murdered through selective abortions - female infanticide. " Nearly 100 million women across Asia have ' disappeared ' because of a huge and growing gender gap that has fatally deprived them of access to health care and food and has led to widespread abortions of female fetuses, according to a U.N. Report. A global war against baby girls is in progress. In many countries, the selective abortion of female fetuses is very common, and the death rates of girls under 5 are unnaturally high. The Economist magazine accurately has called these practices " gendercide. " The summary continues, " China and India together account for more
than 85 million of the nearly 100 million ' missing ' women estimated to
have died from discriminatory treatment in health care, nutrition access
or pure neglect – or because they were never born in the first place.
" One United Nations estimate says that between 113 million and 200 million woman around the world are " missing. " Every year, between 1.5 million and 3 million women and girls lose their lives as a result of gender-based violence or neglect. As the Economist, which reported on a policy paper, put it last November, " Every two to four years the world looks away from a victim count on the scale of Hitler's Holocaust. " Where are the feminists in Canada and the United States who have promoted free access to abortions by women - where are they in the face of this mass murder of girls ? Where are the radical feminists of Canada and the United States in the face of this gendercide ?
Abuse of Woman and Girls in Africa According to David Littman, of the Association for World Education, the term "traditional or customary practices" is a shameful euphemism for crime against women. Female genital mutilation is performed every year on more than 1 million - perhaps up to 2 million female babies, young girls, and women in 30 countries in Africa. Violations of women's rights escalates the rate of HIV infections throughout the continent. Sexual oppression combined with a high biological receptiveness of viral transmission, put women at risk. As a consequence, the violence against women threatens to destroy whole communities. A member of the Research, Action and Information Network
for the Bodily Integrity of Women, Ms. Toubia, says there is tremendous
denial in Africa about the issue of violence against women and girls.
Africans have created a defensiveness about any criticism of their
society. They are very proud and they do not want to change their cultures
or social systems. That philosophy is "a recipe for suicide",
she says. World-wide, women between the ages of 15 and 24 also
account for half of new HIV infections. In South Africa, reports Amnesty International, about one woman is killed by her husband or boyfriend every six hours.
Systemic, Senseless, Political Segregation of the Sexes - this causes misunderstandings between the sexes, and can be used to control, isolate, manipulate and take advantage of women. I find myself very much in the minority here in Canada in my strong condemnation and opposition to needless segregation of the sexes. I am not talking about integrating public toilets you know. There are areas in our society where natural, non-political segregation of the sexes happens, and which will continue to happen, and is to be expected. Racial segregation is supposedly wrong, and is universally condemned. You probably know about the civil rights movement in the United States and the elimination of the system of apartheid in South Africa. However, there is a much deeper and more damaging system of segregation that has been going on for eons of time, and is still going on right in front of our noses and few are speaking up against this injustice. This is the senseless segregation of the sexes. In some countries it is worse than in others, but it exists almost everywhere, and is very strong in Canada too. Let me examine this systemic, political segregation of the sexes here in Canada. Most of the segregation in my judgment is politically motivated in nature. It is to the advantage of many of the powers-that-be to keep women isolated and segregated in their gender ghettoes, because it is then easier for them to control, manipulate, take advantage of, and use women as tools in their political games. It is easier for these authorities, control freaks and often men to isolate the women through segregation, and therefore manipulate the situation and deprive others of opportunities of access to these women. It is then easier to keep these woman down, isolate them, keep their wages lower, and deprive them of various opportunities they would get in a more free, integrated environment. Some Examples The Feminist Movement It is easier for a small group of radical feminists to use and control other woman to help further their own political agenda, if they can isolate and segregate many woman from the men. The women who happen to be weaker, or have less power in society are then easier to control and manipulate by a small group of powerful feminists, like feminist Lawyers, Judges, Social Workers, Nurses and so on. These weaker women are dominated and manipulated to further the political agenda of the entrenched feminist ruling elite. The system can and is manipulated by these women. Women in positions of social power, who are strongly feminist routinely manipulate the authorities to persecute others, particular men like me, who are not politically correct, and who are honest. They will use and manipulate the Police to intimidate and bully the men, if they can. It has happened to me. This is a serious abuse of power, when the Police are manipulated and used as tools to persecute and intimidate innocent persons. And the problem is that so many men in positions of authority, are suckers for woman, and will go along with them and side with the woman - just because they are woman - not because of the need for justice. Politics once again. Lesbians are separatists who support and promote segregation of the sexes - once again for political reasons. If they allowed other lesbians to mix with men too much, these woman might actually start to like the men, and therefore stop being lesbians, and then be out of their control and influence. Gender Segregation on the Job Some jobs will always to male or female bastions, due to the natural, normal differences between men and woman. Construction for example is dominated by men, and this is to be expected, because generally speaking men are stronger than women physically. However, there are some jobs within construction that women can do just as well and maybe better then men, like operating machinery, which requires little physical strength. I feel that much of the gender segregation on the job has to do more with entrenched, backward societal expectations and prejudices, or politics - than with something natural. The narrow idea that certain work is man's work, or woman's work. This may be true in some areas, but not in most cases. I would prefer an integrated holistic society. Have you looked around and seen how many all women departments within businesses there are ? How so many departments are mostly all male ? How so many office workers are female ? And how this needless, artificial, political separation of the sexes leads to misunderstandings, and divisions within business and on the job ? Segregation naturally breeds misunderstandings, prejudices, lack of empathy for the other persons point of view, discrimination, and is a tool used by manipulators and control freaks to isolate a certain group and control them better. Gender Politics Some women only want to be equal with men when it is to their advantage. When equality means sharing the hard and dirty jobs then quite a few women will say they are women after all, and that sort of work is a man's job. It can work the other way too, where men play this game to just get out of doing things like changing diapers. Its women's work goes the excuse. I have witnessed constantly this tiresome gender politics being played out time, and time again. Will people ever learn to give up their stupid backward political games ? Let me give you some personal illustrations of gender politics: 1. Riding transit here in Calgary. Notice how the sexes are segregated. Mostly women in the front of the bus, and mostly men sitting in the back. If a woman gets on the bus, she will usually chose to sit beside another woman, if there are no empty seats. Golly lady I am not going to rape you, and I won't try to feel you up. I remember riding the bus and getting to know this one lady. I liked her. Naturally the other riders on the bus noticed this friendship, and some were jealous. One day this black, male creep sat next to this woman on the bus, and I could see what he was doing was bordering on sexual harassment of her. I never intervened in this matter even though I thought about it and could have, because I felt if I did this might just cause the woman to start defending the creep. He sat next to her and moved close, and it looks like he was trying to establish some creepy dominate-submissive relationship with her. She deliberately moved as far away from him in her seat as possible without actually getting up. Nothing was stopping her from getting up and leaving the situation. It is unfortunate we are plagued by so many male creeps and bums like this black man, who are not man enough or mature enough to establish a healthy relationship with women. They just go around looking for some woman to take advantage of. After this incident I noticed the woman was very unapproachable, and it had been very difficult for me to make contact with her in the first place. If men stopped abusing women - then women would have better attitudes towards men, and wouldn't be so paranoid and fearful. Unfortunately we are living in the real world, not the ideal world, and there are too many male creeps and bums out there, who can't be trusted. 2. I've witnessed repeatedly the gender politics woman play. Take seating arrangements in places like Lunch rooms and Cafeterias. For example a woman has just been hired - few know her. I am sitting by myself at a separate table, and this new female worker is sitting alone by herself at a separate table. The other empty tables in the room are occupied. I do not know her, so do not push myself on her, and just want a rest. In walks a fellow female worker or workers, whom I have worked with for years, and maybe know better than members of my own family. Where do these women usually sit ? Rarely with me, but for political reasons in most cases they will sit with the new woman whom they don't even know from Eve. Gender politics at play. This is a form of self-segregation followed by many woman, but not all. Even if the workplace is a mixed one, many of these woman will gravitate to and cling to and hang around with their mainly female colleagues. And then they dream up all kind of weird impure thoughts about the men, while segregating themselves in their little gender ghetto. Segregation is not only physical in nature, but it also exists in the mind. 3. The Little All Woman Cliques This is a very common practice by women in various situations, and is in my judgment too often political, and designed to keep the other women in line. Woman are usually more concerned (for political reasons) with offending other women, than with offending men like me. Also if they sit together and socialize together then this might serve to mitigate any gossip or lies about themselves that are spread among the women. It seems to be more dangerous socially for a woman to fall out with the other women, then fall out with the men, and it looks to me that most women fear more the disapproval of the other women than of the men. Woman are usually better then men with communicating among themselves, sharing information and working together. Men find it extremely difficult to penetrate and break into these little informal all woman's clubs. The women usually distance themselves from the men, and try to isolate a man, and push them aside, unless they can perhaps exploit or use the man for their own purposes. Politics again.
Sexual Abuse of Women I want to relate an incident that I witnessed and was involved in recently, and ask readers if they think I did the right thing or not. If not - then would like some suggestions as to what I should have done. I was driving home to our place here in Calgary after being out for a walk in the park, and as I was turning into the back alley I notice a man and woman fighting on the side walk. I was prepared to ignore the matter, and I park my car at my place but hear the woman yelling out HELP, HELP. It was not a scream of HELP, but nevertheless the words help were there and loud enough for me to hear. So I walk over to them, and I see the man trying to huge and kiss and feel the woman up, and she was protesting. I noticed the woman was very drunken, and the man was also under the influence, but much less so. The man was a large young black man in his 20's - a bit over six feet tall, with a husky build, but not extremely muscular. The woman was also young in her 20's and attractive, with high heels, taller, Caucasian, and with kind of reddish hair. Now these situations are always tricky. I had no fear whatsoever, but I did not know what was the relationship between the black man and the woman. So what I did was say to the woman - " If you need my help you have to ask me. " I said this twice. The man stopped trying to hug her, but the woman was completely silent. There was no response from her whatsoever - not a word - nothing. Did I use the right words here, or not ? The black man says - " Oh she is just drunk " and proceeds to grab the woman's arms, and drape them over his back and try and carry her on his back. Then the woman and him just start walking along the sidewalk. I got angry and told the black man to " Grow up you fool. " I also yelled out that he could be reported for this. Then the black man responds and says something like " I was born in this country and can't be deported. " I yell back at him saying I never said he could be deported, but he could be reported for being drunk in public. This is really interesting when the black man thought he heard the words " deported " when I said the word " reported. " To me it shows the mentality of the man - with his ridiculous persecution complex. I did not follow them, and so did not know where they were going. I figured that if the woman really was a genuine victim here - then she would have accepted my offer of help. Unless I did not say the right words, or make myself clear enough, or something. I later called the Police and reported the incident. I did not step in physically to separate the man from the woman to rescue the woman, because I did not know the people, and did not know the relationship between them. Were they a couple ? Was he a pimp ? Did he get her drunk, so he could assault her ? Why was she in this situation ? Obviously she was going with him, but it seemed not too happily. So did I do the right thing or not ? E-mail me and give me your take on the matter. Maybe I did not handle it right. What do you think. I would like to hear from some women. I will not publish your letters, only unless you offer to have them published on this page, but even then I may decline. I was prepared to physically confront the man, if the woman had asked me specifically for help. I was prepared to assist the woman in any way I could, and would have gladly brought her to my home, and given her a lift home, or helped her to call the Police and report the matter. If this was a sexual assault I was there to help in any way I could, and was not concerned if the man was armed or how big he might be. But I was not prepared to interfere unless specifically requested to do so by the woman. And I asked her twice " If you need my help you have to ask me. " She did not respond with a YES I Need Your Help. She was silent. My hunch is that she was just playing some stupid psychological game and so put herself in this situation where now she was being abused. The black creep was just abusing another dumb white woman, who probably wouldn't recognize a decent man if one fell in her lap. The country is literally crawling with these abusive, exploitive black male creeps, who take advantage of weak, loose women. Sure other races of men also abuse woman, but there seems to be a disproportionate number of black males, who prey on woman and sexually abuse vulnerable, weak, loose women and so many of these black men (if they can really be called men) are irresponsible layabouts. I am not prejudiced. I am not a racist. My wife is from Viet Nam, and my Dad was an immigrant. I am just telling you the honest truth. Anyone who knows me knows very well that I am not prejudiced. However, I am not politically correct, and am prepared to call a spade a spade. So I do not go out of my way to kiss the ass of the ethnics (or anyone for that matter) and particularly not the ass of the black man. There are victims and then there are victims. I have sympathy for woman who are genuine victims of sexual abuse. They should be helped as much as possible, because them kind of victims actually want to get out from the abusive situation. However, there are also the woman who are just playing games, and who go from one abusive male bum to another. These kind of women usually won't go with a decent man. They subconsciously gravitate to abusive male creeps and bums.
Tel. (403) 274-5253 E-mail 07/07/2010 Mailing Address: Ray Wegner P.O. Box 475 Stn. Main Calgary, Alberta, Canada T2P-2J1
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